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by Shannon Penrod

I am an admitted control freak.  The worst part of being a control freak for me is my unshakeable belief that I can solve all of your problems if you would just let me.  I have no desire to work on my problems.  Why would I?  My problems are old, boring and insurmountable, not to mention complicated and convoluted.  On the other hand, your problems are crystal clear – to me, and infinitely solvable if you would just do what I say.  Of course it’s exhausting knowing how to fix your life and watching you resist my plan for you.  Not to mention that quite honestly there are a few things that I need to take care of in my own life that I can’t seem to get to because I’m so entrenched in what you should be doing.  There’s the rub.  You know what they say, when the student is ready, the teacher appears….I must be ready, because my teacher has appeared.

I am reading Bryon Katie’s book, Loving What Is, and I am seeing myself in a way that I haven’t ever before.  Even in the first few pages of the book she has challenged me to consider that there are only 3 types of business – My business, everybody else’s business, and God’s business.  Katie simply asks her reader to examine when ever they are sad, lonely, angry, uncomfortable, cranky or just our of sorts, whose business they are in when feeling that way.  Her supposition is that when you are out of whack it is because you are in business that is not your own.  Ugghhh.  This is a little too close to home.  I live in other people’s business!  Still, I thought I would give it a try.  Oh my!  In the past 24 hours I have discovered that, oddly enough, I am rarely in my own business  AND when I make a conscious choice to let go of other’s business and be in my own business…I am really happy and peaceful.  Who knew?

I can’t wait to read the rest of the book and see what else can happen if I stay in my own business.  Is it really possible that I could turn into one of those really happy, present people who oozes peace like a Buddha on a Benadryl.  I think I would like that.  So here’s the really exciting news, I’m not only reading Byron Katie’s book, I’m interviewing her on my radio show this Monday at 4 pm PST – 7pm EST.  You can tune in and listen to my chat with Katie by visiting www.toginet.com.  Better yet if you want to work on getting your inner Buddha on give us a call during the live show and you can chat with Katie too!  Simply call 877.864.4869 during the live show.  For more information on Bryon Katie and “The Work” that she does visit  www.thework.com. You can find her book, Loving What Is, by visiting here.


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by Shannon Penrod

I have a few friends that seem to have a different outlook on money than I am familiar with.  These individuals look at money like I tend to look at my kitchen faucet.  I turn the faucet on knowing that the water will cascade out.  Sure, there have been a few times in my life when I went to the faucet and nothing came out, but those were momentary lapses in how I understand the world to work.  This is how a few of my friends look at money – it’s always there, there’s lots of it and if you want it all you have to do is turn on the faucet.  They don’t believe in wasting it, just like I don’t believe in wasting water – but they trust completely in the fact that it is readily at their disposal.  This is shocking to me.  There is a part of me that thinks they are crazy – but it has not escaped my notice that these are the same friends that always have money.  It boggles the mind!  I don’t understand it… but I want to.  I want to “get” it.  I want to relax comfortably in the knowledge that money is ever abundant.

About a month ago I had Marla Tabaka as a guest on my radio show, Everyday Autism Miracles.  Marla is Life Coach who hosts a radio show on Toginet Radio as well.  Her show is called The Million Dollar Mindset.  Even the name of the show makes me sigh with longing.  I had Marla on the show, not to talk about getting a million dollar mindset, although what Autism parent couldn’t use that, but to talk about EFT.  EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, is sometimes referred to as tapping because you tap different points on your body to relieve stress, tension, traumas and emotional blockages.  I was 100% sure that Autism parents could use some free stress relief tips that didn’t involve drugging themselves.  It was an amazing show.  We had three callers who tapped on 3 different subjects and all of them reported feeling totally different after only 3 minutes.  I was intrigued!  So when my friend Ally Loprete told me that she was going to have Marla on her show, This Little Parent Stayed Home, I quickly volunteered to tap on my money issues.

I could tell you all about the tapping but suffice it to say it was amazing!  You can listen to the entire session by downloading it here.  The session starts about 22 minutes in.  The actual tapping only lasts about 3 minutes but it was life changing.  Do I now think of money like my faucet?  Not quite, but I do have a sense that I’ve unclogged a pipe or two.  I intend to keep tapping.  I’ll keep you posted on how it affects my bank account.

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By Shannon Penrod

Is it just me?  Or does it seem like “being in the moment” is stinking hard?  The older I get the more convinced I am the true key to happiness is being able to “be in the moment”.  Stop and consider your happiest memory, the day or the hour or the minute that you felt the most joy.  I’d be willing to bet my last dollar that what ever was going on in the moment WAS actually going on in that moment.  You weren’t sitting there reliving another moment and you weren’t joyously planning something yet to come – you were in the moment!

To be honest, I don’t even think it has to do with what is going on in the moment as much as I think it has to do with finding that “sweet spot” of existing in one moment and not any other.  It is wonderful feeling.  Being free from the past and untethered to an expectation in the future is sheer bliss. So why is it so hard to do?  My mind loves to exist in the past and polish over old cherished memories, and then it wants to race to three o’clock this afternoon, or 5 days from now, or when Jem graduates from college.  My mind loves to jump time, it’s like crack cocaine to my weary grey matter.  And yet I know that true joy only exists in this moment. 

I meditate and attempt to pry my neurons off of words like “I did” and “I will” and settle them on the simple, “I am.”  Most days it feels like trying to train an octopus to type, but I keep trying.  I like to think of it as a muscle that I need to tone.  I wish I had started as a child. It boggles my mind that there is no class in grade school to begin to train young minds to “be present”.  Instead we offer children a sugared breakfast and an artificially colored lunch and wonder that they are so overweigh and fidgety…but that’s a whole other Oprah…as a friend of mine like’s to say.

So for today I am going to attempt to focus on now and not what might be.  I will allow myself to dream and to dip into the past for inspiration but not at the expense of seeing all that is present today.  Sounds good, let’s see if I can do it!

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By Shannon Penrod

I love it when Oprah asks people, “What do you know for sure?”   Here is what I know for sure today : There is help if you are willing to ask for it, and willing to embrace it.  I agreed to be on the A&E show Obsessed  because I wanted and needed help. I got it! 

Today I am overwhelmed (in a really good way) with people offering me their well wishes, their love, their support and their congratulations.  I want to thank everyone for their messages and encouragement, they have meant so much to me and my family.  I also want to let everyone know that I am doing wonderfully and so are my husband and my son.  Life has returned to normal.  It is amazing and miraculous to have had this “return to myself” in what seems like such a quick period of time.

For those of you have written to me to let me know that you are suffering, as I was – I want you to know that there is hope and there is help.  I won’t tell you that it is easy, but it is easier than not living fully.   I know what it’s like to be in that dark place.  I am no longer there.  I hope you will find your help and join me on the other side.  I don’t know if Cognitive Behavioral Therapy works for everyone but it certainly worked for me.  Thank you A&E!

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Realtors ask me all the time, “Do I really need to have a Blog?” I always envision the realtor in 1983 who said, “Do I really need a cell phone?” or the realtor in 1990 who said, “Do I really need to have a computer?” or the realtor in 1997 who said, “Do I really need to have a website?”   It’s easier to see in hindsight how important each of these innovations has proved to be in the business of real estate.  Can you imagine doing business with out a cell phone in today’s market?  Of course not, it is a valuable tool that saves you time and money.  It helps you to close a deal in a quicker more efficient way than how business was performed before the cell phone age. 


Blogs are also an efficient tool that can save you time and money, and they can be instrumental in helping you to attract new clients.


Blogs perform three major functions for realtors if they are done correctly.  Blogs can:


  1. Raise your name and your business ranking on Google and other search engines.
  2. Position you as an expert in your area of interest.
  3. Provide prospective clients with the ability to “interview” you on a 24/7 basis.


The next generation of home buyers and sellers rely on the internet as their number one tool for research about subjects ranging from bubble gum to real estate.  If you aren’t harnessing this tool to direct traffic to your door you are literally missing out on one of the greatest business revolutions of our lifetime.  Don’t miss out on this incredibly power and inexpensive tool.   

Blog!  It does a business good.



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A virtual assistant is someone who helps you with office and life tasks – from a remote site.  We’ve all been using virtual assistants for years, but with the recent upgrades in technology we have now perfected it. 


Have you ever wished that you could split into two people so you could get more done?  Virtual assistants are great for tasks that you don’t want to do, don’t know how to do of don’t have time to do.


Look around your office and ask yourself, “Is there anything I wish I didn’t have to do?”  Imagine being able to hand that job off and knowing that it was going to be done and you weren’t going to have to talk someone through it.  What could you do with the time you could free up just by having someone else complete this task?


 That’s what having virtual assistants is all about. They free you up to do the tasks you want to devote your time and energies to, while still getting necessary work completed on schedule.


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By Shannon Penrod
I am a storyteller.  It took me almost half a century to be able to say with conviction that this is truly my calling.  Saying I was a writer never quite covered the entire picture.  In the years that I was an actress and a stand up comic I was never quite comfortable with those labels either.  No title I was given fit like a glove, it always felt as though there was a finger overlooked.  Now I understand that while I wear many hats in my professional life they all fit comfortably under the heading STORYTELLER.  

Currently there are many stories I am telling.  When I write for clients I am telling their story as it relates to their professional lives.  When I write for Moms who want to work from there homes in order to be with their families while still earning a living – I am weaving a story of women who are capable and triumphant despite challenge.  When I speak to Mothers of children with autism, I tell the story of my journey with my son – a tale of hope and recovery. 

I remember being a young girl and my grandmother telling me the story of my great- great- great grandmother who placed her ten children into a wagon after her husband’s death and traveled with them from Arkansas to Wisconsin where the safely settled.  I am sure that I don’t have the details exactly right, but I remember the gist of the story.  Triumph in the face of insurmountable obstacles.  My grandmother hugged me when she was done telling me the story and said, “Now you are the keeper of this story to share and to pass down to your children and grandchildren.”  Being the keeper of the story resonates with me.  It is a role that feels fitting and right. 

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